My story had all the makings of a Lifetime cautionary tale. Raised Catholic in Texas, by the time I hit college I was still entirely in possession of that greatest of conservative euphemisms: my virginity. My treasure, my precious gift, my stalwart ship. All my life, my virginity had been
Tag: Sex Column
One Night Stand: “Memento”
I watched Memento the other day. To be honest, it didn’t really do it for me. Anything in reverse just makes me a little disoriented, and I hate feeling like I’m not in control. There’s an order in which I expect certain things to unfold, and when they don’t, I
One Night Stand: “Lamentations of a Freshman”
Sex. What is sex? I don’t know. But I sure would like to. When I came to college I thought I might finally get my opportunity to learn. I had always been too nervous to talk to girls in high school, but this was it. A new beginning. A new
One Night Stand: “Pillow Talk: How Much is Too Much?”
It is ironic that the coy, flirtatious talk that amps up the attraction and seals the deal can become unnecessary, even a deal-breaker, after a certain point. After all, as soon as you stumble back to a cutie’s room you just want to shut up and do the deed, right?
One Night Stand: Ode to Men
We all know that women’s bodies are objectified and overrepresented in the media. But why the exclusive focus on the “fairer sex?” I know it wasn’t always that way, and the Greek sculptors agree with me. So does Michelangelo. So, in this semester’s first sex column, I offer a celebration
Claremont Climax: Guide to STDs
Did you know that you can give your partner genital herpes even if you don’t have it? This happens because there are two strains of the herpes virus. Herpes simplex 1 is the virus that causes cold sores, and herpes simplex 2 is the virus that is typically associated with
Claremont Climax: Thoughts on Dating
I have never received a hand job. Unfortunately, I probably know what you’re thinking. “Stephan, that’s because no one wants to give you a handjob.” Touché, reader.Let me rephrase: hypothetically, if someone (hopefully a human girl) were to offer me a handjob, I would refuse. Women, unlike men, are not
Claremont Climax: Getting In Touch with Your Self
This weekend, a friend and I were making plaster casts of our breasts at an event at the Motley. She remarked that, of all her friends, I was the most comfortable and confident with my own sexuality. Her comment made me realize that sexual self-confidence is not universal. Many women
Claremont Climax: Kinky Hookup Spots
For many people, sex is the most intimate and personal act in their lives. Love is a prerequisite to lovemaking for many people, and even the more promiscuous among us probably think that sex is a fairly private thing. But instead of confining your sex life to the bedroom, there
Claremont Climax: October 23, 2009
Oral sex, according to former American President and my close personal friend Bill Clinton, is not really sex. Regardless of how you feel about this particular perspective, it’s clear that there is a great deal of difference in how people view oral sex versus vaginal intercourse.Over my years of researching,