This Column is Masturbatory

In my rather chaotic exploration of all things sexy, I have bounced around a lot of topics. However, I recently realized that I have skirted around one of the most central, formative, and important things of all things sexy. Really, I should have just started talking about masturbation from the

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Sex for Dessert, Conversation for Breakfast: Hook-up Culture at the 5Cs

The media’s seemingly cyclical concern over an out-of-control hook-up culture among the nation’s undergraduates tends to be misguided (e.g. college students are actually having less sex now than they did 20 years ago) and/or sexist in its subtle reiterations of the ‘slut/player’ dynamic. Nonetheless, I agree with the underlying premise

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The Morning After

What is the worth of open, honest communication between couples in committed relationships? Not much, said Tender Buttons in last week’s edition of “Tender Buttons Ruins Lives.” A tender reader expressed concern after “stumbling upon” some choice pornographic material on her boyfriend’s computer. “That’s not the stuff we normally do!”

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