The Morning After

What is the worth of open, honest communication between couples in committed relationships? Not much, said Tender Buttons in last week’s edition of “Tender Buttons Ruins Lives.” A tender reader expressed concern after “stumbling upon” some choice pornographic material on her boyfriend’s computer. “That’s not the stuff we normally do!”

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Tender Buttons, Tender Butts

Note: This week’s sex column contains more explicit material than columns printed in the past. We encourage you to assess your own comfort level with sexually graphic content before reading. Dear Tender Buttons, I’m comfortable with the vaginal sex I’ve been having with my boyfriend… comfortable being the operative word.

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Ex-Men: First-Class Morons

Tender Buttons received feedback from last week’s column re: gay virgins and passive aggressive manipulations. One commenter accused Tender Buttons of trivializing “a person’s right to ask their potential sexual partner to get tested,” citing other, non-needle ways a virgin may contract a STD. True, a person may contract herpes

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Sex Column: 2/11

“Tender Buttons” is the name of Gertrude Stein’s 1912 masterpiece, a collection of poems derided as nonsensical by some and praised for breathtaking sensuality by others. Stein would host gatherings in her renowned Paris salon for her favorite ex-pats and other intellectuals, providing an atmosphere rich with thought and pleasure

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